Parenting

How to help a child cope with emotions.

Let them really think about how they're actually feeling. Be sure to validate their emotions and to guide to manage them.

Avoid putting labels on you child:

" You're so lazy just like your father."

"Your room need s to cleaned before lunch time."

"You're for sure going to be a difficult teenager."

"Please don't talk back to me."

"Why you love being mean to your sister?"

"Please respect your sister's boundaries."

"Honey, Jacob is such a stubborn child. I don't know what to do with him."

"Avoid discussing your children around them using nagative labels.

Labeling your kids can make them believe that those labels traits define who they are and accept it. They will find it extremely hard to change.

The way you treat your child is how they will forever believe they deserve to be treated. Treat them the same exact way you wanted to be treated when you were a child. With respect.

Some parents forget that children are humans too. They’re little human beings that need your help to guide them to be become respectful and responsible adults. ♥️

"Even if it is your school teacher or your auntie, if they overstepped your boundaries. Make sure to let them know."

"Be precise and clear of what you want and don't want to be spoken at/to be touched in/to be treated as/.."

"Be consistent of your set of limits. If your school mates treated you with disrespect numerous times, make sure every single time you let them know that they've crossed their lines."

Teaching your kids the first small steps in creating their own boundaries will be the best thing you could ever do to them.

Maybe it's because of, "why are you always nagging!?" That they can't stop nagging

Maybe it's because of, "are you deaf?!" That they keep not listening to you

Maybe it's because of, "stop acting like a brat!!" That he won't stop crying for that toy in Walmart

Maybe it's because of, "I've gave up on you, you'll never be a good girl like your sister." That won't make her start acting in a respectful manner

Try changing your word, your reaction, your mindset, maybe that's the main problem

Have done a lot of correcting and less of connecting.

Have taught how to stop crying but not how to feel emotions

Have made a lot of digital photos and less real moments.

Have made a lot of  comparisons and less of caring about uniqueness.

Have had a lot of expectations and showed less of recognitions.

Let's learn from other people's regrets.

Parents tend to focus on what their children did wrong so they can seize the opportunity to remind them of what's right and wrong.

However, it's nice to point out when they're being good. Praising small tiny acts encourage them to be mindful of how they behave.

Not validating their feelings:

"there's nothing to cry about."

"it's not that bad." 

Not giving them control in even small things:

"you have no option but to wear the red dress." 

Not taking into consideration their limits:

"tired or not, we're going grocery shopping." 

Calling them names:

"you're a spoiled little brat." 

Laughing at them:

"Ha!  you look funny when you're upset." 

Do you want to be treated like that when yourself have an adult meltdown?

Get on their level:

"let me sit next to you and talk" 

Show that you're truly listening to them:

" it's okay if you're nervous to talk. You can take your time, I'm all ears

 HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD

Do not be distracted:

"let me put down your baby sister to sleep and then we can have a good conversation." 

Do not force your opinion:

" it's okay if we see things differently."

 Do not  intercept:

"you can tell me about your perspective first them I will tell you mine."

 Listen to them carefully:

"it's okay if you're nervous to talk. You can take your time, I'm all ears."

A good communication skills with your kids makes for an extremely tight bond.